Archives for January 2018

Week 7 Nugget: Meeting Our Own Needs

Years ago children grew up in villages with family and friends and other adults very much involved in their lives. Today, most children at best have two part-time parents…and many children have only one part-time parent to meet all the needs of all the children.
Some parents say the shift to Connection Parenting is raising the bar too high; it’s too hard. This is because parents are trying to do this without proper support. Parenting didn’t use to be–and it isn’t meant to be–a one or two person job. In order for us to meet our children’s needs, it’s crucial to have a support system in place that helps us get our own needs met too. Even if children’s needs are more immediate, they’re not more important. We don’t do our children any favors when we allow our needs to always come last.
When our needs are not met, we become stressed. When we become stressed we can start a vicious cycle that is hard to get out of. Stress is contagious! More stress means less connection with our children. The less we connect, the more children communicate their need for connection through acting-out behavior. The more children act out their needs, the more stressed we become. So…it’s really important to look at our lives and see how we can set up our lives in a way that gets our needs met too.
In the seventh class of this parenting series, we look at the 5 most common reasons parents cite for not doing more for themselves.  As a class, we explore each reason and co-create strategies to overcome the obstacles. Cultivating the necessary resources and support makes it possible for parents to get their own needs met. This is crucial if we want to parent in a loving and respectful way.
Would you like to learn more and experience for yourself how integrating these practices into your daily family life will reduce conflict, meltdowns, and defiance and increase cooperation, peace and harmony? Sign up for Connection Parenting starting Jan. 9, 2018.