Sherri Boles-Rogers is an ACPI Certified Parenting Coach. She is also a graduate of the Center for Nonviolent Communication’s Parent Peer Leadership Program, part of the Peaceful Families, Peaceful World Project. She has been a parent educator and parenting workshop facilitator since 2005.
Sherri provides one-on-one and group coaching to parents. She also facilitates parenting classes and parenting book study groups based on the models of attachment parenting and Nonviolent Communication™.
As a working mother of two boys, ages 16 and 14, she knows firsthand about the challenges of integrating conscious parenting into daily hectic family life. In her work with parents, her goal is to provide awareness, understanding, and non-judgmental support for families to cultivate “power with” relationships based on mutual respect and trust.
Sherri lives in Atlanta with her husband, Greg and her two boys, Jake and Jeremy.
Why I’m Passionate about Parenting: My Story
I started on my parenting journey when my first son was born in 1996. We had waited almost 11 years before starting a family and we were finally ready to welcome our first bundle of joy. Little did we know the challenges we would face and the doubt and uncertainty that lie ahead. When we couldn’t seem to soothe him or get him to stop crying, and when the crying turned into rages and intense tantrums as he aged, we began to question ourselves as parents. Why did our friends seem to have happy, content babies and toddlers and we had a screaming banshee on our hands? How could they take two or three kids out to eat and we usually had to ask the server to “box it up” and leave in the middle of a dine-out dinner? What were they doing right? What were we doing wrong?!
It took a couple years before our son was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder and we began intervention to get him the support he needed. Things shifted once we had an understanding of what was going on for him and yet, it didn’t take away the tremendous challenge of parenting him. It was and still is a challenge! Our son is now a teenager and continues to push the envelope. He will always keep us on our toes as parents, learning and growing and building our parenting muscles. And I am grateful to him for being my greatest teacher–the one who pushed me out of my comfort zone and into a lifelong journey of personal growth and meaning.
You see, I had to find a way to live with this child. I wasn’t ready to “break his spirit”, as so many people tried to convince me to do. I knew there had to be a better way to have some peace and ease in my family while keeping his spirit intact and I was determined to find it! I had a whole library of books and DVDs on the “challenging” child, the “difficult” child, the “explosive” child, the “spirited” child. We visited child psychologists and therapists, too many to name. I went to parenting workshops, support groups, family camps, even joined a 9-month parent peer leadership program. All in all, over 1000 hours of training to grow my consciousness and skill as a parent! That’s like a full time job, 8 hours a day, Monday-Friday, for 6 months!
Along the way, I discovered something. Something simple really. If I had discovered this at the beginning I might have saved myself lots of money and time. The thing was…as I loosened my grip on trying to control how my son behaved and shifted my focus instead on having a relationship with him, I began to experience the peace and ease I was yearning for. As I started to connect with what was going on inside me when I got triggered by his behavior, I began to recognize and heal some of my own childhood wounds. I discovered that peace and ease are an inside job; it doesn’t come from what’s happening on the outside…and thank God for that, or I might never have it!
When our second son came along, it enabled us to see just how different kids can be. Some we label “challenging” and some we label “easy.” They’re just labels, really, as to how effectively we respond to their particular personalities. And how much growing we need to do to be in the parenting role for each unique child. My own parenting journey has been difficult and fulfilling, tiring and invigorating! and most of all, it has been empowering! For now I know the power that lies inside me. (On a good day)…I have the power to choose how I relate to my children. I can choose how I respond to their behavior. I can choose in which direction I take my life. I can choose to have peace and ease whenever I want it.
That’s priceless! And that’s why I want to share what I’ve learned with other parents so they can have peace and ease in their families too, no matter how “easy” or “challenging” their child’s behavior is.
Here’s a favorite quote which has gotten me through many tantrums and screaming rages and, hopefully, will get me through the teenage angst:
“Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work.
It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart.” – Author Unknown
I would be honored to work with you in bringing peace, ease, and joy into your family too!
from my parenting heart♥ to yours♥,
ACPI Certified Parenting Coach
& Family Communication Specialist