“You guys are the bomb!”….btw, that’s a good thing :)

Translation:  "I think you guys are the bomb!  and the best!  When I think about you, I think about happy times. Because it meets my need for happiness."

Translation: “I think you guys are the bomb! and the best! When I think about you, I think about happy times. Because it meets my need for happiness.”

One of the homework assignments in my Respectful Parents, Respectful Kidsclass is for parents to hand out appreciation notes (we call them Giraffe Notes) to members of the family. Parents are encouraged to notice things that their kids do that contribute to them or to the family and then to write a note expressing their appreciation. They also invite their kids to write appreciation notes to family members as well. This is to be a daily practice.

After a week of writing Giraffe Notes, a mom came to class and said the kids were less than enthused about her notes and weren’t that interested in writing their own. I encouraged her to keep at it, and to realize she was planting seeds which may take a little while to bloom.

The next week I received this text message from the mom and a photo of a note she had just received from her son (above):

“My 7 year old just wrote a Giraffe Note on his own. Wow! He went and got a blank one and presented it to us at dinner! OMG…tears…. He wrote we were the bomb and when he thinks of us it is happiness. Thank you!”

You can do this in your family too. Notice the little things your kids (and partner) do that you enjoy and let them know about it. Invite them to participate as well for mutuality. We all like to hear that we are appreciated!